Do you remember a time before Instagram? Most likely. It was only 4 years ago. Twitter? Probably. 2006 wasn’t that long ago, either. What about Facebook? That one is a little harder. 10 years, yikes!
Though it was only a decade ago that social media transformed our lives, it is now the current method of communication between “friends.” How would we update people about what is going on in our lives without it? Who will we take selfies for? Funny thing is that I remember taking photos and getting them developed or printed. Just take that little memory chip to Target and wait. Now we upload photos to social media for more than a keepsake. Pictures posted on Instagram and Facebook are done so to garner ‘likes.’
Women are especially prone to doing so. When you feel sexy enough to snap that selfie you plaster it all over social media. What you don’t reveal is how many times you snapped the selfie before sharing, or the various angles you attempted before capturing your beauty.
I am all for commemorating your ‘yes I’m fierce’ moment. If you’re feeling beautiful and confident, you should flaunt it. However, when I log on to my pages this is all I see – selfie after selfie after selfie. And the first thought that pops into my head is: “okay, this picture is for attention.”
When these thoughts spring up, it makes me sad. We have come so far as a sex; to see a sometimes obvious plea for admiration sets us back a couple of generations. Also, I know how self-esteem affects women. We often struggle with self-worth and self-love. We place too much emphasis on what men think and want, and what they find desirable.
Our merit is not based on the amount of ‘likes’ we receive. You may be thinking that you already know this and that this isn’t you, but subconsciously we all do it. It just seems to be in our DNA. A picture, though, should never be an indicator of how beautiful we are. Intelligence, humor, and generosity are some of the attributes that make us confident. So how do we break free from the social media mold? How do we celebrate more than our physical beauty on social media so people can “like” us for who we really are?
Show off your brain a little. Post about subjects that demonstrate your interests. On my Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, you’ll find my posts range from work to sports to funny quotes to my take on current events. An occasional selfie is fine, but your identity should not be based on showing off your assets and physical features for the sake of a “like.”
Tell us. How bad has social media affected your self-worth and confidence?