I’ve been thinking a lot about authenticity. What it really means to be real and how we reveal our true selves in this world. Social media allows us to put it all out there. But do we really? Do we post Facebook status updates to brag or be pitied by peers, or do we use this tool to be open books?
Maybe it’s because I’m in Los Angeles – the city where you “fake it till you make it.” Or maybe I am inundated with super positive Facebook updates. But I wonder if any of it is real.
I’m talking to you lady who only posts photos of inspirational quotes. I’m eyeing couples who only shout out their love but don’t divulge the ups and downs that every relationship experiences and hopefully endures.
It seems fake to me. Inauthentic. We want to reveal ourselves to the world but only show one side. There are so many layers to our careers, our daily lives and relationships, yet we only display a piece of the puzzle. We cultivate pseudo personas and lives for all to see.
This frustrates me. Don’t ask me why. Often times things frustrate me and I can’t understand the reason. It may be because I pride myself on being really honest. But even in my honesty I fib. I lie to myself and to others to save face or not hurt feelings.
That friend that asked me if she’s a good writer, well, I lied. That other friend that asked me if I thought she looked like she’s lost weight, well, I lied. It is the way of the world. So it’s no wonder that we lie on social media. That financial coaches have no money. That relationship coaches are single and miserable. That entrepreneurial coaches don’t have a business that makes money.
Social media allows us to pretend. But I don’t want to pretend. That’s why I just updated this on my Facebook.
As simple as day. This is my life. This is what I’ve gone through in the last ten months. And in my book, Love Trips, I talk about what I’ve been through in relationships. I might not always be brutally honest. I may not always tell the truth. I may not always express exactly what I feel. But every day I try to be as authentic as possible, even when tapping away on my keyboard. And that’s really real.
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