There’s nothing like a man who supports you. Whether he believes in you or celebrates your professional wins, having a significant other that is your personal cheerleader makes life easier.
Take me and Boo, for example. When we first began this romance a little over a year ago, my personal and professional life were in disarray. I had moved back to NYC from Los Angeles just two months shy of meeting him. By the time of our first date, I didn’t have a job anymore due to being bamboozled by a reality TV show. I didn’t have my own home anymore; instead, I lived at Mami’s in her apartment in Washington Heights.
Needless to say, I was kind of a mess. I wasn’t sure if I was going to continue pursuing my career in radio and entertainment. On our first date I even told Boo that I was returning to school to get a second Masters – this time in education. I did return briefly. During the summer of 2014, I took three classes so I could apply for a second certification in education. (I was once a teacher.) But I changed my mind again. I didn’t finish that second Masters degree because I didn’t want to teach. It was only a back up plan. One that I had crafted when I was desperate, depressed and afraid to fail in the profession that I love and adore: radio, writing and TV.
Now I think back at that time and wonder: if the shoe was on the other foot, would I have given myself a chance? Would any woman take a man seriously that didn’t have his shit together? When I met Boo, I was afraid he would reject me because of where I was in life, which I felt was no where. All my accomplishments meant nothing to me at the time because of where I was at the time. And I have plenty of friends that would reject a good man because he’s still figuring out his dollars and cents. Boo didn’t reject me. Through my confusion, indecision and wavering, Boo was there, decided to get to know me and fell in love with me. He didn’t quit me and, though he didn’t quiet understand how I came to be in the dire position that I was in professionally and financially, he stuck by me and supported me through it all.
Boo could have decided that I wasn’t the woman for him. We were early into our relationship; he could have made a clean break. He didn’t. He is the first man that I have ever loved that has not abandoned me. He met me when my world was falling apart yet he decided to become a part of it.
Now, my career is back on track and my relationship with Boo is stronger every day. I can’t wait to keep shining and climbing professionally with my best friend, my lover, my boo right by my side.