I never understood why women vanish when they meet a man. There’s no need for a missing person’s report; your friend is just loved up with her significant other.
I didn’t think I’d be that girl. Why can’t you love your man and spend time with him, have an amazing career, and chill with your girlfriends and family? I’d claim. Because there are so many hours in the day, my missing friends would report months later.
This is where I am now. I am realizing that when you are a woman that has it all some relationships just fall by the wayside. My career is flourishing just as I manifested. “Flourish” is my word for 2015. My relationship is amazing; Boo and I are cohabiting nicely. Add my Chef Sujeiry hat (I love to cook) to a crazy schedule (due to my 9pm live radio show on SiriusXM, I commute into the city from Long Island every weekday) and I hardly have time to unwind and watch TV. I truly miss TV!
And I know it will get busier when I have children. Boo and I may just have one kid, we’re so busy. No matter how much I try to manage and tidy up my life I know it will get tougher to juggle it all, to balance it all as a woman.
Still, I never thought I’d be this girl. I thought: if I continue to have to-do lists and remain organized, I can still call friends weekly, go out for Happy Hour, have wild sex with my man every day, spend time with my family, and go on vacations and have girls nights. Um, what was I thinking?
To top it all off, I feel guilty. I feel bad for castigating my friends who tried to explain that they truly have no time for me, and for now telling many people, “hey, sorry I’ve been MIA. I just don’t have time for you.”
Some friends will understand. Some friends will be hurt. I figure as long as I communicate this we will be alright; the friendship will stay intact. But that’s not always the case. I remember not being happy with many of my friends who vanished, and sometimes cutting them off because I felt abandoned. I now know what it feels like to have this pressure to have it all and balance it all as a woman. The shoe is on the other foot.
When you are a professional woman who has a great career and a man that you want to spend time with, well, other things will fall by the wayside – that includes people.
So, no, I cannot have it all, balance it all, juggle it all perfectly. As a woman who is living the life that she manifested, I will no longer apologize for my semi disappearance. I can only do my best, try my best, and that has to be enough.