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Save A Ho Complex: Women Love Brooding Men

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Pouting Is Sexy?

The Save a Ho Complex is a condition that affects women everywhere, convincing us that we can save a ho from impending doom. Who are these hos? Usually men with a myriad of issues, like the ones who still hang with their frat boys at the age of 40, sleep with a different pepa™ every night, or drink themselves to the point of black out. The ho’s that we, as nurturing women, want to salvage are men with “potential.” Bad boys with amazing qualities under their rugged, devil-may-care exterior. Pouty, brooding men who fear adulthood and act like boys rather than men. We yearn to save them because we believe they need a push from a strong woman. He’ll change his ways for me, she thinks. I’m special, unlike the other girls who couldn’t change him, another convinces herself. But nothing changes because a ho is a ho.

Until they decide to change for themselves, that is.

So, what pushes us to aid the broken ones? According to a study, it’s all about our attraction to specific facial expressions. The University of British Colombia surveyed over 1,000 men and women who rated the sexual attractiveness of hundreds of images of the opposite sex. In these images, men and women engaged in universal displays of happiness (broad smiles), pride (raised heads, puffed-up chests) and shame (lowered heads, averted eyes). The conclusion? Women are more attracted to brooding men rather than happy men.

Hence, our attraction to bad boys, and, in turn, our need to Save A Ho.

The study explains that women are turned off by happy, smiling expression as these expressions suggest a lack of dominance, where as an angry and proud expression exudes a sense of power, status, and straight up badassness. And, as many of you have felt at one point or another, a bad boy can be oh so good.

So where does that leave us in combating the Save A Ho Complex? We’ll have to find ways to resist the pouts, the scowls, the frowns, the mysterious eyes, and puffed out chests. We’ll have to turn the other cheek when a brooding man winks at us from across the bar.

Because I ain’t got no time to save a ho.


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  • Sujeiry Gonzalez

    Yes, the truth is always revealed! There are red flags everywhere that, unfortunately, we don’t want to see…even if someone is hitting us with the red flag lol. It’s a life experience that most women go through. It’s almost like a rite of passage!

  • Sujeiry Gonzalez

    I think we’ve all slipped up at one point or another. As long as we get back on track, it’s okay!

  • Sujeiry Gonzalez

    I think an inviting smile is attractive if it has a little mystery. When a man is cheesing, it’s kind of corny lol. But I agree. I don’t have time to save a HO! Life is too short to try to change anyone.

  • Presley’s Pantry

    I don’t have time fro HO’s either. I encourage my single gals friends to steer clear of these types. Interesting facts about the survey…. isn’t everyone attracted to an inviting smile? Hmmmm weird.

  • Jasmine (Fashiongrail)

    Save a ho LMAO! I’ve pretty lucky and avoided the bad boys but every now and then I slip up. 🙂 I agree time will tell!

  • Viviana

    Spot on! Although I pride myself on having given up Bad Boys in grad school after I dated the Photographer, I recently, momentarily slipped. Those big blue eyes, his wit…My advice: give it time b.c the “truth will be revealed”. Luckily I had a biz trip and in that brief time, he carried on via text with another woman, but his messages came to me! I don’t know what’s worse: dating a chump or someone who is mean. Needless to say, I quickly lost all interest and pressed the delete button on my phone!