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Chivalry Doesn’t Swipe Right! Tinder’s Killing Dating Etiquette

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Gone are the days of meeting Prince Charming at the grocery store, while walking your dog in the park or when stuck on a jam-packed subway. Today, we swipe left or right on our smartphones, and read mini bios consisting of cheesy movie lines and photos of shirtless men petting tigers in tropical forests. Today, singles use technology to handle first impressions, ask intriguing questions and ease the nervousness of making initial contact.

The ease of Internet dating has created a casual environment that’s resulted in lazy dating among Millennials – and it’s a real crisis.

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A year ago I decided to date online after relocating to a city where I knew practically no one. I figured online dating would help me meet new people and be an easy way to jump back into the dating world after a 1-year man-free hiatus. I was on every app and dating site possible and was fully invested in the process of this new-aged dating trend. Unfortunately, I was met with countless disappointing dates and a handful of immature, unmotivated and lazy men who couldn’t understand chivalry if it slapped them across the face.

I was shocked to discover that every man who asked me out on a “date” put absolutely zero effort in his appearance and manners, the restaurant choice and even planning the evening. It became very clear that not one single guy felt the need to impress me or treat me like someone special.  But, why?

Online daters like to pretend that their lives are so incredibly busy and eventful that it deters them from meeting people. But, let’s be real. We live in a society where technology does all the work for us. Human interaction has become taboo and people are unable to be normal or connect naturally. The virtual world is taking over and preventing us from creating genuine face-to-face connections, which has eliminated the need for manners, chivalry or the effort required to score a second date. We have created a monster and it’s only going to get worse!

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Ladies, we don’t have to accept the bare minimum from men because their wires have been crossed due to an overload of TV, video games and social networking. Most of them were raised with technological distractions and it has stunted their ability to understand women or treat them with respect. The world has changed. Boys today are not like the gentlemanly grandfathers who took pride in valuing their wives and girlfriends. In my opinion, chivalry is only dead if we allow it to die, and this girl right here knows what she deserves.

Melissa is a writer from Long Beach, California who aims to bring out the humor and horror in modern-day dating. She believes there's no sugar-coating romance, and her writing brings out the raw reality of the millennial fight for normalcy in a virtual hook-up generation. When not poking fun at her numerous dating misfortunes, Melissa is often playing volleyball, attending concerts and cooking fantastic meals.