Dating Tips

9 Signs That You’re Being Catfished, Mujer!

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Does your boo look like a runway model? Not that you can’t attract someone with chiseled abs who’s the finest specimen to walk on Earth. No shade. But, let’s be honest: when have you ever since a supermodel online? And one that initiates the courting process? Nah.

fake model on instagram as a catfish

If your online “relationship” feels too good to be true, it probably is. In order to save you some time and energy so you can do more important things (like spending time with a real model!), here is some online dating advice so you don’t fall victim to a Catfish. Plus, some signs and tips on how to discover those fake fakers!

Your online boo won’t send you any photos. Can I get a picture? you ask. And he keeps sending you the same three photos that he has on Instagram. Girl, he’s hiding something. Like his real face!

Their video camera is “broken.” Seriously?! Who doesn’t have a video camera these days? Not even a webcam or, you know, that camera on a smartphone…or iPad…or – everywhere! If they refuse to video chat, or you do have a Skype session and their room is too dark and they’re barely visible, they’re probably not who they say they are.

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They offer to send you money. Thanks, but no thanks. As generous as some people may be, there are very few who just hand out money to a stranger they met online. If they deposit a check into your account (cause you gave them your number, mujer!) and the check bounces, congratulations – you’ve been scammed.

They ask you to send them money. His sister has terminal cancer and he needs money for treatment. Wait, but I thought it was terminal? Catfish tend to use extremely sensitive, traumatic situations to lure in their prey. Watch out for spontaneous stories about family illnesses. Trickery, I say!

Asking for extremely personal information. The minute they ask you for your address, bank information, or even your social media login, run for the hills. A Catfish will do everything in their power to ruin your life and get what they want.

They disappear from time to time. You haven’t heard from bae in quite a while, you must’ve done something wrong, right? Wrong. A Catfish ghosts often and reappears when he or she wants something from you. Think of them as a toxic fuck buddy…that you actually haven’t fucked (or met!) yet.

You’re finally supposed to meet in person and he’s a no-show. Of course, he’s standing you up, he’s not even within proximity of your state!

They contact you at specific times of the day. If you only hear from your online love during the day, they may be in bed with their lover at night.

They’re not active on social media. If he has 5 friends on Facebook and he’s trying to holla, block him. If she hasn’t posted a photo of Instagram since 2009 (and it’s 2012), run!

running on the beach from a catfish

So, you notice all of these red flags, but still aren’t convinced that the guy who keeps messaging you heart emoji’s and “I love you’s” is a 18 year old girl who lives in her mom’s basement. You still don’t believe the chica who sends you boob shots is a boy putting his knees together. It’s time to Google, Google, Google! Go ahead and drag some of their photos onto Google’s reverse image search. In some cases, the profile of the “real” person may show up. You can type in their email address or phone number into Google’s search bar and different profiles may show up. There are also apps that you can download that tell you who a phone number belongs to. My favorite app is CallerSmart.

Another must: get in contact with his/her’s social media “friends.” Message them and ask if they’ve ever met them in person. Ask them how they know your online boo. If it seems fishy, it probably is, especially if you’re “man” gets defensive because you’re contacting his friends, or because you’ve asked him 100 plus questions about himself. This all points to your online love being a fakey, fake, faker. If all else fails, give Nev and Max a call – or the po-po!

Alanna is an aspiring writer and editor. Currently a student at Lehman College pursuing her degree in Media Communication Studies, she spends her leisure time hopping from beauty shop to beauty shop, comparing natural hair products for curly gals. The proud Afro Latina was often told she had “pelo malo” (bad hair) and she wants to put a stop to the damaging idea that straight hair is the only hair that will land you a dream job or man. A promoter of self-love, Alanna also encourages women of all backgrounds to love themselves and to not conform to patriarchal norms.