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Ask Sujeiry: Why Do Men Just Want to Sleep with Me?

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Dear Sujeiry,

I’m 22 and I’ve never had a boyfriend. I am usually in casual relationships and it seems that the only guys who show an interest in me just want to sleep with me, not actually form a relationship, so I’m not sure if that’s because I’m putting out a weird vibe or something else entirely.

As for what I look like, I think of myself as average looking. I don’t wear make up cause I’m not girly. I am really mature though so maybe I need to dumb myself down or something and wear lipstick. I just don’t know how to get guys to notice me in a positive way. Can you help me?


Just Casual Sex

Dear Just Casual Sex,

You need to attract healthy romantic relationship, and you are not! That’s because you don’t feel you deserve it. You need to work on your self-confidence and level of self-worth. You also need to NOT sleep with men who just want to sleep with you. Why do so if they just want sex and you want more? Even if this means waiting for love, isn’t it better than setting yourself up for more hurt and disappointment, which ultimately destroys your self-esteem? Yes, it is!

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So, get to work on yourself. Be self-first. If you are interested in coaching services, make sure to contact me!

Love Sujeiry is an aspirational lifestyle brand for Latinas and women of color that champions authenticity and manifestation. The owner and founder, Sujeiry Gonzalez, is the host of “Love Sujeiry: Dish Served Raw" on reVolver Podcasts. Previously, she hosted a show on SiriusXM in NYC and Exitos 93.9FM in Los Angeles. The content creator has also been featured on, YourTango, Cosmo, Momstatic, Mommynoire, NBC Latino as she inspires women to dish on love, sex, and relationships, and to be their best selves. Sujeiry tells it like it is and shares her triumphs, devastating blows, tales of new mami life, and her creative career moves on her web series, "Love Bytes with Sujeiry," where she is authentically herself and holds nothing back. Ultimately, Love Sujeiry serves to entertain and inspire women to live authentically, find fulfillment through manifestation, love themselves, follow their passions and never ever settle.