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Ask Sujeiry: He Said He Liked Me Then Ghosted

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Dear Sujeiry,

A guy I’ve knows for over 10 years told me he had feelings for me, and then he ghosted! It’s been weeks and I have not heard from him. What is going on?! What should I do? I just don’t understand men. Please share some of your advice.

Sincerely,

Left Me in the Dust

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Dear Left Me in the Dust,

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Ay, what is it with men, huh? Well, it’s quite simple, really. I see this in three ways: 1) He’s just not that into you; 2) He’s into you but doesn’t want a relationship, or 3) He has feelings for you but doesn’t want to act on them.

Why would he say anything at all? He wants to keep you ‘on the shelf.’ He isn’t ready to be serious but doesn’t want your fine ass to meet someone else. It’s a way to keep you on hold, lingering and hoping.

What should you do? Nothing. Leave him be. In my experience when men have feelings for a woman and are willing and ready to be in a relationship, they go for it. Feelings are not enough. Action and follow through – that’s what matters! Without them you don’t have a relationship, you just have words.

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Love strongly and wisely,

Sujeiry

Love Sujeiry is an aspirational lifestyle brand for Latinas and women of color that champions authenticity and manifestation. The owner and founder, Sujeiry Gonzalez, is the host of “Love Sujeiry: Dish Served Raw" on reVolver Podcasts. Previously, she hosted a show on SiriusXM in NYC and Exitos 93.9FM in Los Angeles. The content creator has also been featured on Latina.com, YourTango, Cosmo, Momstatic, Mommynoire, NBC Latino as she inspires women to dish on love, sex, and relationships, and to be their best selves. Sujeiry tells it like it is and shares her triumphs, devastating blows, tales of new mami life, and her creative career moves on her web series, "Love Bytes with Sujeiry," where she is authentically herself and holds nothing back. Ultimately, Love Sujeiry serves to entertain and inspire women to live authentically, find fulfillment through manifestation, love themselves, follow their passions and never ever settle.