Relationship & Dating Advice

Ask Sujeiry: Is He Just Afraid of Commitment?

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Dear Sujeiry,

I have been on and off with this guy for 3 years now and it doesn’t seem like he wants to commit. But, the moment I decide to keep my distance, he comes back. He keeps saying that he likes me and that he cares about me. Then he talks shit and treats me like I’m nothing. I really do not know what this guy wants from me because he wont let me go.

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I still have feelings for him but I just cant hold onto his indecisiveness anymore. He is draining me emotionally any psychologically. He doesn’t even take me out on dates and we argue a lot whenever we are together. I don’t know what to do anymore. Please share some relationship advice.

Love,
Commitment Phobe or Just Not Into Me?

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Dear Commitment Phobe or Just Not Into Me?

I hate to break it to you but this guy just isn’t it to you. He’s led you on for 3 years – and you’ve let him. He’s not committing and you’ve stayed put. This isn’t even a relationship. So this is on you as much as it is on him.

I was just talking to a girlfriend about this: how women see the potential in men and focus on their words rather than his actions. He says he likes you and cares, but treats you like crap. That shouldn’t be enough to make you stay. And, yes, he may reel you back in but it’s your choice to say, “Thanks, but no thanks! I’m done for real this time.”

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If you are done for real, and I hope that you are, cut him out of your life. No calls. No texts. No break up sex. No social media stalking. Start anew. You deserve so much better than this, but the choice is ultimately yours.

Love strongly and wisely,

Sujeiry

Love Sujeiry is an aspirational lifestyle brand for Latinas and women of color that champions authenticity and manifestation. The owner and founder, Sujeiry Gonzalez, is the host of “Love Sujeiry: Dish Served Raw" on reVolver Podcasts. Previously, she hosted a show on SiriusXM in NYC and Exitos 93.9FM in Los Angeles. The content creator has also been featured on Latina.com, YourTango, Cosmo, Momstatic, Mommynoire, NBC Latino as she inspires women to dish on love, sex, and relationships, and to be their best selves. Sujeiry tells it like it is and shares her triumphs, devastating blows, tales of new mami life, and her creative career moves on her web series, "Love Bytes with Sujeiry," where she is authentically herself and holds nothing back. Ultimately, Love Sujeiry serves to entertain and inspire women to live authentically, find fulfillment through manifestation, love themselves, follow their passions and never ever settle.