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Ask Sujeiry: Messed Up Wife

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Sujeiry Looks Into the DistanceDear Sujeiry,

My wife is cheating on me with a 24 year old boy. She is 38 years old and wants this boy! She does me so wrong and left her children behind for him. What kind of woman does that? Can you help me figure her out?

Sincerely,

Messed Up Wife

Dear Messed Up Wife,

I am so sorry to hear that you and your children are experiencing such betrayal and abandonment. Unfortunately, there is nothing I can say to help you better understand her actions and intentions. She has shown her truth. That The Boy she is sleeping with now is what she wants. It is obvious as she left you and abandoned your children for The Boy. So I believe it is futile to try to make more sense out of this.

Her message is in her actions and it is crystal clear that she rather not have responsibility. Difficult to hear, I can imagine, but there is no denying she wants to be free of…something. So, do yourself a favor. Free yourself of her. Free yourself of guilt and blame and what if’s and why’s. Be the best man and the best father you can be and, in time, you will realize you are all that much better without her.

Love strongly and wisely,

Sujeiry, 1st Lady of Love

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Love Sujeiry is an aspirational lifestyle brand for Latinas and women of color that champions authenticity and manifestation. The owner and founder, Sujeiry Gonzalez, is the host of “Love Sujeiry: Dish Served Raw" on reVolver Podcasts. Previously, she hosted a show on SiriusXM in NYC and Exitos 93.9FM in Los Angeles. The content creator has also been featured on Latina.com, YourTango, Cosmo, Momstatic, Mommynoire, NBC Latino as she inspires women to dish on love, sex, and relationships, and to be their best selves. Sujeiry tells it like it is and shares her triumphs, devastating blows, tales of new mami life, and her creative career moves on her web series, "Love Bytes with Sujeiry," where she is authentically herself and holds nothing back. Ultimately, Love Sujeiry serves to entertain and inspire women to live authentically, find fulfillment through manifestation, love themselves, follow their passions and never ever settle.

  • Ramia003

    Definitely! He didn’t share crucial details with you, there is no way to get a complete picture of his dilemma. He should take the time to get critical input from someone who can guide him through treatment &/or a resolution.

  • Hello! Thanks for commenting!

    I agree with you. I don’t know why she is cheating on him. What I do know is that I do not condone a man or a woman abandoning their children. That is the case that he presented to me when he emailed me, and so I advised him with that information. He should talk to a professional, whether it is an attorney or a therapist.

    Again, thanks for your opinion!

  • Ramia003

    Woah! Are defending his ego or what?! You have no idea why she is cheating on him (maybe he deserves it?). It isn’t your place to advise him, you are not a psychologist or a psychiatrist. Also, if he is asking a pop-culture blogger for marital advice, then he isn’t ready to be married… Sorry, boo – He should talk to his wife, a doctor or an attorney.