I believe Freud: we date men like our fathers. Subconsciously, of course.
Take my exes. My first love was affectionate, catering and…aggressive. He would spontaneously combust and truly scared me with his anger. One night at a college party he tore off his v-neck t-shirt, like the Hulk, and sprinted after a drunk frat guy who had “disrespected” him. Elijah almost kicked his ass. He swung and growled and only stopped after his cousin calmed him down because the cops were called.
Papi reacted the same many times. Loving and warm one minute, throwing our speakers out a four-story window the next.
So, yea. Elijah and Papi were birds of a feather. I made a mental note of that then and promised not to repeat this mistake. I did. What can I say? It takes a few cocotasos for me to learn a lesson. And it seems I’m not be the only one.
According to a SeekingArrangement poll, 49% of women admitted to unconsciously dating men like their fathers because of similarities in personality. Here are more findings:
- 22% of women date men like their fathers because they share similar values
- 16% of women date men like their fathers because they make them feel secure
- 10% of women date men like their fathers because they have similar physical features
- 3% of women date men like their fathers because they provide closeness like that of a father figure
What say you, chicas? Can you relate to these findings? When you think back at your romantic relationships, have you dated men like your farther and do you still? Share in comments and make sure to listen to this episode of Love Sujeiry: Talk Served Raw on reVolver Podcast.