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6 Sex Acts and Trends Men Love, According to Men

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They’re unconventional, freaky and some are just plain kinky; yet more and more men are open to exploring sexual fetishes and trends. Men are speaking out and requesting to get down and dirty with their ladies. Interestingly enough, the sexual acts that are currently driving men wild are often considered “ feminine.” It seems more men are crossing blurred lines and totally redefining what they find sexy.

Here are five surprising sex acts and trends that men are obsessed with, according to men:

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Make Her Squirt

deep connection

While squirting is nothing new, more men are making it their mission to make a woman squirt. “It definitely can get messy but honestly, the messier, the better!” Chris, 24, of Staten Island, NY exclaimed. “Some women can do it easier than others, and that’s cool, but it’s such a turn on when you can make a girl squirt who can’t do it as easily,” added Chris. And men don’t mind the mess! “We actually would like it more because it’s so sexy when you can get a woman that excited.”

Give Me Pubic Hair

growing bush

After years (and years, and YEARS) of painful bikini waxes, more men are speaking out about the “hair down there,” and are putting an end to an age-old myth: they love hairless vaginas. “I don’t know where that rumor got started about men not liking any hair down there,” James, 27, of Brooklyn, NY confessed, “but I know that my buddies and I like a woman to have a little something.” Some men think a completely bare kitty cat looks too youthful and not nearly as sexy. “A little something there leaves more to the imagination for us and keeps us intrigued.”

But, how much is too much? Well, that all depends on the guy. While some men like a full bush, others say a happy trail is just enough. No matter how you decide to grow your hedges, the general consensus among men was to keep it neat, tidy and trimmed.

Sweat For Me, Baby 

sweating nerves

When it comes to sweating during sex men are debunking yet another common misconception: sweating during sex is gross. “Everybody sweats, it’s natural,” Brian, 29, of the Bronx, NY said, “but a woman who is sweating while we are having sex is HOT!” he continued. Why the desire for perspiration? “If I’m the only one sweating it makes me feel like I’m doing all the work while she is just laying there trying to look pretty, but if we are both sweating it shows that we are both working hard to keep each other happy.”

Those Pretty Feet

wiggle toes fetish

Although not many men admit to this fetish, more men than ever have an acquired taste for pretty toes. “A foot fetish is considered to be weird with a lot of stigma behind it, so men aren’t nearly as open to sharing – but we are out there.” Mason, 24, of Queens, NY confided. “Sometimes I’ll get with a woman who finds it weird and uncomfortable, but once I ease her into things and get her relaxed, she winds up really enjoying it and it’s even more of a turn on for me.”

Heading Downtown

Wolf on Wall Street Heels

A man’s needs used to take precedence in the bedroom, so when men would go down on a woman it was usually to return the favor. You know, like a common courtesy. Now, men embrace going downtown and are loving every minute of it. “I always thought guys weren’t really into going down on me so I would never really ask or make [it] a big deal,” said Ariel, 23, of Manhattan. “But lately, the guys I’ve been with are requesting [it], and some are even begging to do it!” Not only are guys really getting into performing oral sex on women, but some are going the extra mile to please a woman. “I love going down on a woman and making my lady feel good,” Caleb, 26, of Brooklyn shared. “[Men] don’t mind; we actually enjoy doing it, but you’ll never know if you don’t ask.”

Tell Me What To Do

Britney Whips

Whether it’s full on whips and chains or subtle combativeness, more millennial men find sexually aggressive and forward women a turn on. “It shows confidence and that a woman knows what she wants,” TJ, 25, of Queens, NY said. “Plus,” he added, “it lets me know what she is into and takes the guesswork out of it.” But, is too much instruction ever a bad thing? “I once had a woman tell me everything from positioning to what she wanted me to do to how she wanted it done, and it was some of the hottest, intense sex I’ve ever had,” he revealed. In the end, she got what she wanted and he was able to deliver. “I put that smile on her face.”

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So it seems men are turning the tables on what gets them hot and bothered. They are embracing and exploring what the female body has to offer, and accepting our bodies just as they are. No more body shaming, monthly Brazilian waxes and hiding our biggest insecurities under the covers. There is a new generation of men that are open to sexual exploration and paying homage to the female form. And it’s about time. As Korey, 28, of Manhattan expressed, “women have been catering to men in the bedroom for years. It’s our turn to cater to you all now. So ladies, lay back and enjoy the ride!”

Tiffani is a true city gal, hailing from the concrete jungle of New York City. With a large coffee in tow (that’s pronounced caw-fee to my non-New Yorkers) this closeted “self-help” addict and Lifestyles writer is on a continuous quest to discover how to have the best romantic life. An old soul with new age sarcasm, Tiffani’s sharp, witty and tell-it-like-it-is attitude has resulted in many a snafu as she tries to navigate and conquer the most challenging and complicated assignment of all: dating the New York City man. Come a long for the ride as this seasoned serial dater tries to find balance between her journey to self-love and her old school values on dating and relationships. She writes about her lessons and adventures in dating as a twenty-something millennial and all the new rules that apply.