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5 Ways to Amp Up Sex When Dating an Adventurous Lover

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I once dated a guy who loved to have sex outside the bedroom. Sofa, closet, kitchen: we mopped my former apartment with our sex juices.

I loved his adventurous spirit, until he wanted to have sex with me atop of an ATM vestibule. “Don’t you know there’s a camera in there?” I said while smacking his hand away from my booty. He didn’t care. In fact, he suggested we have sex in Central Park as an alternative.

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My then man was a bit too much for me. When we broke up (for various other reasons), I felt relieved to have “normal” sex again — in the comfort of my own bed!

This scenario can be common in relationships. There are two types of people when it comes to sex: comfort people and thrill seekers. Those who want to get freaky the good old fashion way are all about comfort; sexual routine is what they crave. As for thrill seekers, they want to bang and hang naked off chandeliers — and maybe jump out of a plane after orgasming.

How can you amp up your sex game if you’re dating a thrill-seeking, spontaneous lover? Here are some ways to add adventure in (and out) of the bedroom.

Sex outdoors.

I wasn’t down to roll around on the grass naked because of grass stains, dog poop and ants. However, I was open to doing it in a club. It’s dark enough, booze is flowing and most people are too busy dancing or flirting to pay attention to what a couple is doing in the far corner. So, go to a club and wear a mini skirt. Sit on his lap. His zipper should be unzipped so you can pull out his erect penis and ride him to the rhythm of a salsa.

Bring on the sex toys.

If you’re not ready to have sex in public, spice it up by using vibrators, dildos and anal plugs during sex. It is the easiest way to bring some adventure into your bedroom. You can even use toys, specifically vibrating panties and anal beads, when out and about. The Fifty Shades of Grey Relentless Remote Vibrator will give him control as he can tease you before doing the deed.

Experiment with wigs.

Pink, purple, blonde: whatever the color, try on a wig! If your man has always been into blondes, or you want to feel extra fiery and rock a red ‘do, wigs are a great way to add some flavor to your sex romps. Add some role play and your thrill seeker will be in heaven.

Do it at your mommas.

There’s nothing naughtier than having sex knowing you may get caught in the act. But, why at your mom’s place? You can do it in your old bedroom. You know, that place where you could never bring boys to because your mami was so strict. Take that, woman!

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Be someone else.

If you’re a fan of “Modern Family,” you’ve seen the episode where Claire becomes Juliana. It’s a Valentine’s Day tradition for Phil and Claire, but you don’t have to wait till Cupid comes to town to assume a new identity. Tell your man to meet you at a bar. Come in with a wig, a new tight dress and a new name. Rent a hotel room and pretend that this will be your one and only night together. Your thrill-seeking, adventurous man will feel like he jumped out of a plane and is happily flying in the wind.

Love Sujeiry is an aspirational lifestyle brand for Latinas and women of color that champions authenticity and manifestation. The owner and founder, Sujeiry Gonzalez, is the host of “Love Sujeiry: Dish Served Raw" on reVolver Podcasts. Previously, she hosted a show on SiriusXM in NYC and Exitos 93.9FM in Los Angeles. The content creator has also been featured on Latina.com, YourTango, Cosmo, Momstatic, Mommynoire, NBC Latino as she inspires women to dish on love, sex, and relationships, and to be their best selves. Sujeiry tells it like it is and shares her triumphs, devastating blows, tales of new mami life, and her creative career moves on her web series, "Love Bytes with Sujeiry," where she is authentically herself and holds nothing back. Ultimately, Love Sujeiry serves to entertain and inspire women to live authentically, find fulfillment through manifestation, love themselves, follow their passions and never ever settle.