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Threesome Heaven! Are Bisexual Women the New Ms. Right?

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One of the biggest misconceptions about bisexual women is that it’s a phase or a transitional stage from heterosexuality to lesbianism. But for many it goes way beyond kissing a girl and liking it. Bisexual women feel attraction and are drawn to both genders sexually and emotionally – sometimes in very different ways. And, according to a study done by Lisa Diamond, an associate professor of psychology and gender studies at the University of Utah, bisexuality was found to be “a stable identity [rather] than a transitional stage.”

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So, if you are a man in a relationship with a woman who identifies herself as bisexual, chances are she’ll identify with it for the rest of her life. Good news is that the same study also debunks the stereotype that bisexual women cannot be in monogamous relationships. For some men (and women) these findings are like hitting the jackpot. If you are a heterosexual male with a woman who is committed to you but also likes women, you may feel like you just won the hot seat on “Who Wants to be a Millionaire.” But, slow down. A bisexual woman that is in a committed relationship with a man does not lead to threesome heaven. Some bisexual women prefer to be with a man or a woman – but not necessarily at the same time.

For the lucky few men that have found a bisexual woman who is willing to bring other women into the bedroom, count your lucky stars but don’t rush the fantasy. She (your bisexual partner) should be in charge. After all, you wouldn’t be getting your balls licked by two women simultaneously if she hadn’t been open enough with her sexuality to allow it.

When talking among friends, I’ve heard some say that laying out all the rules beforehand is the best way to go while others feel rules infringe on the fun. In my opinion, the bisexual woman involved should state what she would or would not feel comfortable doing with the man she is committed to. So if she is only willing to allow oral sex between her man and the invited female, he should not have a problem with it. Aren’t two sets of lips on your penis better then one? And isn’t it just a little bit of heaven to have one woman sitting on your face while the other goes to town with your manhood? What’s there to complain about homie?

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On the contrary, if you are with a bisexual woman that is not willing to share you with other women, don’t pressure her or try and convince her to change. She will then feel that you’re in the relationship for all the wrong reasons. And how much will it hurt to see her walking down the street with her new hot girlfriend after she dumped yo’ ass?

Zayda is a writer from New York who enjoys dishing on entertainment, pop culture and sex.