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The Best Sex Positions that Turn Him On, According to Men

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You might think men are into extra crazy and adventurous stuff in the bedroom (even if they only say so for the sake of coming across more sexually advanced and adventurous), but it’s actually not the case. Turns out our needs are more conventional.

After speaking to both single guys and men in relationships, here are the popular sex positions that turn him on.

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Doggy Style

It’s probably no surprise that doggy style was the most common answer. Doggy style is primal and animalistic, and men love it because it gives them an unobstructed view of your butt and allows for deeper penetration. They’re able to hold onto your bodacious seat cushion as they drive up the intensity from behind (and there’s just something that feels naughtier about doing someone from behind). Bonus: you don’t have to see each others awful “O” faces.

Cowgirl

Men love this classic position because it requires less work and our hands are free to roam and play with your breasts and stimulate your clit. Men have a front row seat to view your pleasure, and it’s a big turn on to watch you dictate the pace that you like the best. Not to mention: guys can last way longer from the bottom.

Missionary

“Missionary…I guess?” That’s how the majority of guys in relationships answered.  Is this because of boredom? A sign that sex in a long-term relationship becomes too routine and comfortable? Perhaps. But it’s more likely to do with the fact that missionary is the most intimate position — you’re face-to-face, staring into each other’s eyes, and often kissing while making sweet, sweet music with your bodies. Missionary requires full synchronization. It’s a staple, particularly for those who feel closely connected to their sexual partner. So it’s not a surprise that those who feel the most connected to their lover answered “missionary.” A good way to turn your guy on and take control in the missionary position: grab onto his hips and help steer the pace.

Reverse Cowgirl

Men love reverse cowgirl because it’s like a lazy doggy style. They get to sit back and enjoy the million-dollar view without working for it. Reverse cowgirl has minimal contact and lacks intimacy, but the turn-on is that it appears to be all about YOU and getting YOU off. If you do want to make the position more intimate, look back at him occasionally through strands of your tangled sex hair.

Flatiron

This position is a combination of doggy style and missionary (or reverse missionary). Instead of being on all fours, you lie face down on the bed. Raise your hips slightly so the guy has an easier time entering you and finding the right angle. Men love this position because it enables deep penetration, while allowing him to play with your hair and access your neck from the side. This position — particularly if you make out occasionally — combines the closeness and intimacy of missionary position while indulging in the primal side of dogy style.

Valedictorian

This is the missionary position with your legs in a “V” stretched out on his shoulders. This is a favorite go-to position for a lot of men because it’s a massive turn on to see you react to deep penetration in such an up-close position. In this position he’s also able to take full control.

Some positions didn’t make the top 6 list but here are some honorable mentions!

Upstanding Citizen

Sex standing up (or the Upstanding Citizen) didn’t make the short list as it’s very exhausting for the guy and difficult to maintain for a long period of time. But, holding your entire body weight as you revel in his pure masculinity will drive him absolutely wild.

The Butterfly

During The Butterfly, you lie at the edge of the bed and he stands or kneels next to it. The turn-on is that he’s in the driver’s seat and can view your entire body stretched out on the bed.

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In the end, a variety of things turn men on; it all depends on the mood and the nature of the relationship. Sometimes he may want it a little slower and more intimate, sometimes he wants to pump away and lose all inhibition, and other times he just wants to sit back, enjoy the view, and watch you get off. There really is a time and a position for everything.

Jamie Rea is a Canadian entrepreneur, relationship writer, and comedy writer who loves to combine humor with advice on various topics in dating and relationships. He is a self-proclaimed hopeless romantic with a dirty mind, so it’s not surprising his dream girl has a big sense of humor and an even bigger heart. He currently writes about relationships for multiple publications across Canada and the US, including Made Man, Elite Daily, and Mode Media.