It’s Friday night and you’re on a date with a guy that you just met. He takes you to a fairly nice restaurant with good food and great drinks to match. The conversation is flowing very nicely and you start to think to yourself, “Hmm, I could definitely see this going somewhere.” But hold your horse’s, baby girl. As soon as the check comes he looks at you to provide your half of the bill. Suddenly, your potential Mr. Right turns into to Mr. Cheap, and now you hope to never run into this man again.
Traditionally, men are supposed to do the courting. Many women feel that if a man is interested in them, it is his duty to impress her. This includes wine-ing and dining without ever asking her to spend a dime. When a man is interested in a woman he will undoubtedly invest money and time into their relationship. Anjoli Chambers from Queens, New York says, “Men are supposed to woo us, not the other way around.”
Some women believe that it is okay to pay depending on the intensity of the relationship. When you are in a committed relationship you should consider treating your man every once in a while, especially if he is always paying. Kristin Corry, a 21-year-old student at Howard University says, “I don’t think it’s fair for a guy to have to come out of pocket all the time because just as much as you want him to show appreciation, he wants you to show your appreciation for him too.” However, she then goes on to say that he must indeed be her significant other, “I’m not paying for the date unless I love you though.”
Even if a woman is planning on paying, some feel a man should never pressure her to feel like she is obligated to. Shermalie Bigot who is also from Queens, New York says, “a man should never let a woman take out her wallet.”
As long as as your man is not pressuring you, it’s nice to split the bill every once in a while. But if you are only getting to know each other, let your boo continue to pay until he proves that he’s in it for the long haul.
Tonya Nelson is an ambitious hopeless romantic. As a graduating senior at Howard University, Tonya uses her experiences to share her ideas about love and romance from a collegiate perspective. Her plans are to become a multimedia mogul. Until then, she’s working on her college degree while indulging in casual dating along the way.
Photo Credit: Flickr Creative Commons.