Being a Mom is never an easy job. Being a single mom is a whole other ball game. When you’re a single mom, dating isn’t just about you; you have to think of your kids too. If the guy is interested in being your man, you have to ask: will he be a good role model? Will they get along? But the most important question is: when should he meet your kid(s)?
Don’t bother if your relationship isn’t serious.
If you’re just having fun, there’s no point in bringing a new guy into your kid’s life. Kids get attached easily, and many want a picture-perfect family and crave a “Mommy and Daddy” environment. If your kid meets your fling, it may harm him emotionally.
Case by case basis.
I’m a single mom to a very intelligent, over-active 12-year old boy, and I handle the meet “Mommy’s Special Friend” situation on a case by case basis. I was in a relationship for two years yet my son thought he was “just a friend” the entire time. On the other hand, I was in a relationship for just a month when my son met my current “boyfriend.”
Trust your gut.
Speaking of my son meeting my boyfriend, it happened spontaneously after our second date! I asked if he wanted to come with me to pick up my son from school. I expected him to say no; instead, we were on our way. He asked my son where he wanted to go for dinner, which surprised me. My son wasn’t shy and chose Samurai – a somewhat costly hibachi restaurant. Over dinner, they hit it off and have become instant friends.
It’s been two three years now. I look back and realize I didn’t give my son enough credit. I thought he would be upset that I was dating. I always kept my son away, keeping my dating life completely separate because I thought that was the right thing to do. Now I know that kids are very resilient and accepting.
So, to answer the question, the right time for your kid(s) to meet your guy depends on your chid, your relationship and your intuition