Who comes to mind when you think of your backup plan? Every woman has one. He is that man that will do anything for you. This guy loves you, and you know it. So much so he allows you to keep him as number two.
Here’s a little more about backup plans to help you decide if he should be your number one.
Forever Friend Zoned
The backup plan stays in the friend zone. From time to time, we do shine a little ray of hope. This sense of false hope keeps him around. He is there for us in case things don’t work out with another suitor. When all hope is lost or we feel exasperated with dating, this is when we turn to him.
To Give Him a Shot or Not
Often times we don’t give him a real shot because we are in relationships, albeit dysfunctional. Or we are simply chasing some bad boy. Our backup plan may be great for us but we don’t see it, or we just don’t feel it. That’s why we don’t give him a shot. We keep him on the back burner until we’re old and single, and have resigned ourselves to be with someone who we don’t necessarily love. But does ending up with our backup plan mean that we’re settling?
Think about it. This man has been by your side, supporting you and working to make you happy. If anything, he should be recognized for his efforts. He truly does appreciate you. Settling would be to end up with a man who treats you like crap. It would also be settling if you are not at all attracted to your backup plan. Sometimes men are just friends and it’s hard for us to see them in any other light.
Bottom line, having a man on the side is setting your current relationship up for failure. If you are single and have a backup plan, you’re also not allowing him to be happy. There is a woman out there searching for him yet you have him wrapped around your finger. Set him free so he can find love and be truly appreciated.
Erynn Castellanos is an aspiring radio broadcaster with an opinion on all things love. Currently going through the trials of most twenty somethings, she balances life and relationships and knows what she wants. Her articles on LoveSujeiry.com tie in her personal experiences while exploring the early stages of dating and the single life.
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