I have my shit together. I own my house and car and I have a great job. I ride down the street smiling while listening to Destiny’s Child’s “Independent Women.” The lyrics tell my life story. I’ve worked hard for my success and all that I’ve accomplished and attained in life. So why am I still single?
My wish list is relatively short: I want a good-looking, loving, affectionate, stable man who will treat me as an equal. Oh yeah and no drama. So, why I haven’t I met him yet? Why are unsuccessful woman running around with a great (and hot) guy instead of a street urchin while I’m twiddling my thumbs at home alone?
Because men are intimidated by independent women.
I’ve heard many men complain that they can’t find a good woman. A few months later, I see a photo of said guy with the biggest party girl in town. You know what I’m talking about. If you’re like me, you wonder, WTF is going on? Again, some men are intimidated by hard-working, intelligent and successful women. Here’s why:
These men suffer from the “Savior Syndrome.”
That’s right, an independent woman doesn’t need to be saved. We are financially secure and emotionally stable. That can actually be a turn off to a man who wants to feel needed. Like any other woman, we still need love and affection. However, men with the “Savior Syndrome” are looking for a woman who is down on her luck. He wants to be her knight in shining armor and to save her from her self-destructive lifestyle. He not only feels needed but also in power. The messy gal then becomes dependent on him for love and financial support, as he helps her with rent and basic necessities. Independent and successful women run from this guy. No man is claiming my ass as a dependent come income tax time.
These men want a submissive partner.
An independent woman will challenge a man. Personally, I love a good debate. I want a man that I can talk to on an intellectual level. I love going out to dinner and a movie, but I want more than that in a partner. An independent woman wants a man that can stimulate her mind. Some men are intimidated by women who are more knowledgeable than they are on certain topics. In turn, they seek partners that are submissive and agreeable. They want to feel superior on some level and as if they are always right. They want women to be impressed by their intelligence. A submissive woman will look up to him. An independent woman will respect her partner and demand that same respect.
Independent women are less willing to put up with their shit.
When a woman knows her worth she will not put up with a man’s shit. If a guy temporarily ghosts or cancels a date, she’ll put him in his place. If it continues to happen, she’ll drop his pathetic ass. No desperate “where are you babe” texts. Who cares where he is? I’ll give you my pet peeve – a crazy ex. If a man tells me his ex is psycho and she’s blowing up his phone and he’s looking at it constantly, that’s an immediate cut from my team. Go be with your ride or die, who is clearly ready to die. I’ll snuggle up with my cat and watch “Maury” and be entertained by the same shit minus my involvement. I don’t deal with drama. An independent and successful woman doesn’t bring drama to the table and neither should her man.
Bottom line, independent women are strong women that know their worth. Only a real man can handle a boss bitch.