Soul mate. A simple word that evokes many feelings within us – excitement contentment, fearlessness, and trust, to name a few. However, this eight-letter word carries a weighty implication. The concept of “soul mate” – sold to us by Disney and Nicholas Sparks novels – convinces women that there is only one man for them. We hope it to be love at first sight, or for it to be a perfect relationship that lasts forever.
Falling in love with our perfect someone sounds breathtaking, but I don’t believe it’s real. When my mother broke the news to me that her and my dad were separating, it destroyed my soul mate fantasy. I saw two people grow out of love. Which regrettably does happen. I realized that there isn’t just one person that is meant for us. Maybe we have many soul mates.
Think about it. We fall in love with more than one person in a lifetime. You may already have. Falling in and out of love is part of navigating relationships. What’s important to remember is that the love you felt for your high school boyfriend isn’t less than the love you felt for your college boo (or the one after that). How many times you’ve been in love doesn’t diminish the pure love you’ve experienced. Or the passion – naughty or nice – that occurs between the sheets.
So go on and love without the pressures that come with the word “soul mate.” I will continue to believe in love as it is a powerful force that should be expressed and felt. I will happily embrace love no matter how many times I fall.