“Why am I still single?!”
Asked every single lady I’ve met and coached.
I have many female friends who are obsessed with their relationship status. I can relate; I was that girl! In my 20’s, I really wanted to be loved. I really wanted a man. I really wanted to be wanted. My need was so overwhelming that I often dated and committed to men who were NOT WORTH MY TIME.
Someone sleazy, cheesy, “smooth”…a little like this.
My ex (I call him “Luke”) was a 26-year-old Dominican philanderer. He also had a daughter who he often neglected and a nasty habit of checking out other women in front of me. I DIDN’T TRUST HIM FROM JUMP, but still decided to date him, bed him, and introduce him to my familia as my man!
I was desperate, I tell you.
Once I broke up with him (I stood up for myself and realized I’d lowered my standards) something clicked. I realized….
I CAN’T LIVE MY LIFE CHASING LOVE, MEN…JUST CHASING…
I HAVE TO KNOW WHAT I AM WORTH AND NOT SETTLE.
I CANNOT BE WITH A MAN BECAUSE OF POTENTIAL.
IF I CONTINUE WITH THIS NEED, THE IDEA THAT I CANNOT BE WHOLE WITHOUT A MAN, I WILL NEVER LOVE OR BE LOVED.
And we all just want to be loved.
So, why are you still single, mujer?
BECAUSE YOU ARE NEEDY, JADED, DESPERATE, INSECURE, UNSURE, and EMPTY.
Repeat this mantra daily to shake these negative feelings out of your system. Look at yourself in the mirror (really look) and say the following until you believe it.
I AM WORTH CHASING.
I AM WORTHY OF REAL, MATURE LOVE.
I DESERVE MORE THAN A MAN WITH POTENTIAL.
I AM LOVED.
As soon as you believe these things about you, your single status will just be a distant memory.
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