It happened. You are crushing on your friend’s man. Movies have told this story time and again. You may even know a scorned woman who tales the tale of that girl she used to know…before she slept with her boo.
Take a deep breath, friend (and woman scorned). Do not act on your feelings! Yes, the heart wants what it wants. It may not be your fault. Still, you must take precautionary steps so this doesn’t take a turn for the worst. Here’s how to cope when you like your friend’s man.
Spend more time with your friend…without him.
If you’re constantly the third wheel, this may just be the reason why you’re so attracted to him. You are always around him because you’re always around her. What you need to do is ask her for one-on-one friend time. This will help disseminate your feelings of like.
Don’t be alone with him.
When you socialize with him, make sure it’s in a public environment. That way you are surrounded by others. Never ever be alone with him! Not even when your friend runs to the bathroom. That’s when you also feel the urge to pee.
Look at his eligible friends instead.
Birds of a feather flock together; chances are his friends are just like him. Get to know them. Be open-minded. Find other options! Added bonus: if this works out, the four of you can double date.
Do not even flirt with him. Ok. So you are not making out with him, or trying to seduce him. That’s good! But “innocent” flirting is also a no-no. Don’t go behind your friend’s back and flirt with her man. If you feel the urge of the pica flor, find someone at the bar and flirt with him instead.
No matter how many years of friendship sabotaging a relationship is bad karma. Let this go as best you can. Save your friendship and your dignity. And remember: there are plenty of fish in the sea. You don’t need to take someone else’s catch.
Erynn Castellanos is an aspiring radio broadcaster with an opinion on all things love. Currently going through the trials of most twenty somethings, she balances life and relationships and knows what she wants. Her articles on LoveSujeiry.com tie in her personal experiences while exploring the early stages of dating and the single life.
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