Recently, I witnessed my parents having their own private get together. A “ghetty,” I like to call it. It was just the two of them: having drinks, listening to music, and enjoying each other’s company. And I was in awe. They’ve been together for 38 years and have managed to stay together because they gave each other their word – for better or worse. I won’t pretend it’s all been roses. They’ve had their trials and tribulations like any relationship, but they refuse to give up on their marriage.
Because of their example, I believe in building a relationship that’s real, one that will last a lifetime. When I’m in a relationship it’s for keeps. Unfortunately, in today’s society relationships are as disposable as baby wipes. Many don’t want to work at it or fuss. They rather have little commitment. Tossing out your relationship and going to the next guy or gal is the easy thing to do.
But, when you love someone you shouldn’t just walk out. You work things out; you acknowledge when you’ve done wrong; and you fight for love.
How? By setting your pride aside. Relationships are never going to be easy, but you have to give them your all. Before walking away, here are some suggestions to help you fight for your love.
Create a list of pros and cons about your relationship. Analyze where it’s going and what you want from it.
As a couple, talk to each other about your list. Make sure you’re really sharing your needs and what you want.
When your partner is opening up practice active listening. Don’t interrupt. Let them speak. When he or she has expressed their feelings acknowledge what they’ve said so they know that you listened.
Take a trip.
Get in your car and take a mini-vacation away from everyone and everything. Disconnect from the world so that you can re-connect with each other. Leave all technology and social media behind. Focus on each other.
Go to therapy.
Therapy is not just for married couples. Sometimes we just need a referee to help us communicate better. See if there is anything that’s keeping you from making it work.