The best thing about college was having a new found freedom that killed most mamis. My Mami in particular assumed I’d be boozing (correct) and sleeping with boys (also correct). Though College Sujeiry was indeed a Big V, I still yearned to cuddle and feel the warm flesh of a man inches away from my tender skin.
Blame Mami, who never allowed Cute Kid Sujeiry to participate in sleepovers.
What happened most mornings was common for an item without labels and very unlike my rigid upbringing. He would kiss me good morning, funky morning breathe and all, and out the door he went, creeping back to his dorm room at dawn, hoody over his head like a creature of the night. But what of those who were in an actual relationships? They practically lived together in a tiny cell of a dorm room. Decorating the pasty concrete walls with happy photographs of trips to the mall and class and the Student Union and back to the mall. I found it to be very romantic and often wished to have that connection. How amazing it would be to share my twin sized bed throughout an entire night and consecutive weeks at a time!
At least for me.
Many women, on the other hand, rather have their separate space, including their own bed to crawl into after the sexing is finito. It’s the latest trend in relationships, which is ironically called Stayover Relationships. According to a University of Missouri study, recent couples rather spend “three or more nights together each week while maintaining the option of going to their own homes.” Debunking the myth that women are dependent on their mates and that all couples desire to live like married folk.
How is this impacting the longevity of relationships? That is still unknown. What we do know is that couples are shacking up part time to avoid the potential negative consequences of living together full time.
So, if you want to hit it and sleep alone in your Full sized mattress, you can!
If your Mami allows, that is.