I hate to be the bearer of bad news but marital bliss may only lasts three years. The once known seven-year itch has taken a beaten as couples begin to feel unhappy at only three years of marriage.
Honey, the spark is gone and I need someone else to scratch my back!
A recent study analyzed a group of married couples and cohabitating couples: one group had been together from one to three years and the other from four to six years. The results? There may be a three-year itch.
Prof. Kelly Musick, a University of Southern California sociologist, had this to say:
“We know that typically when marriages end in divorce, half end before seven or so years and half end after.”
That means that by year three someone is unhappy and thinking of ditching their spouse.
Why the marital dissatisfaction? Some blame women and our need for independence. We don’t need to be taken care of anymore. So, what keeps married couples together? As the Beatles sang, “All you need is love.”
“What’s keeping people together is their love and commitment for each other,” Professor Musick said, “and that’s fragile.”
Maybe love can’t conquer all after all. It may keep you in your relationship for the time being. But love won’t help couples overcome every rough patch in the relationship, every argument, every financial struggle. That, my friends, can only be improved through one thing: work.
Ani Chakiryan is a 23-year-old Los Angelina, born and raised. She spends most of her time with her nose in a book, writing shorts stories and baking cupcakes. Follow her delicious tales and treats on Limani Cupcakes.
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