As a child, when caught lying, we’d hear the sing-song of “Liar, liar pants on fire!” The sound of teasing voices echoed across classrooms, traveling down corridors to the school cafeteria for all to hear. The liar pegged and now known throughout school as someone who is untrustworthy and manipulative. A reputation ruined at a young age and, perhaps, a character flaw that may never dissipate.
Or can it?
Lying is a part of life. Even those who are honest, like myself, lie from time to time. But, unlike most people, I lie for good not evil! For example, if Mami asks if I’m taking a cab or the train, I will tell her the former. It’s either that or hear her hollering about the dangers of riding public transportation after 9pm.
So, what traits make someone a liar whose pants are on fire? And what gender lies the most? According to a study, those who are manipulative and sneaky are least likely to lie as they usually don’t care what others think. If you do worry about the opinions of others, however, you are most likely to fib to be liked. This personality type is called impression-management. Extroverts are also more likely to lie due to the frequency of interactions they have with others. Because they spend more time socializing, extroverts have more opportunities to fib than introverts who spend their lonely nights twiddling their thumbs.
As for who is the bigger liar, it turns out men and women lie for different reasons. There are two kinds of lies: self-serving lies and kind-hearted lies. Self-serving lies are the ones people tell to make themselves look better or to avoid shame, guilt or blame. A man may deny he took another pepa™ out to dinner to not rock the boat in his relationship. A woman may lie to her boyfriend about talking to an old flame. Kind-hearted lies are quite the opposite, said with the intent to make someone feel better or to spare them pain. Those are the lies that are for good not evil!
You’re welcome, mother.
Not surprisingly, kind-hearted lies are usually exchanged between women. Men, on the contrary, will fib for days to save their nargas as they usually tell self-serving lies. So, whenever you hear the sing-song of “Liar, liar, pants on fire!” trust that the pegged liar is an extroverted male who either wants to be liked or save his own ass. Until said liar loves himself a little more and builds confidence, expect flaming body parts.