It’s 2016 and in today’s modern world there really isn’t a rush to get married, especially for young professional Latinas. Our parents and grandparents don’t really understand this. They still believe that marriage is the ultimate goal and constantly ask, “When are you getting married?” The reality is our priorities as Latinas have shifted. We’re focused on our careers rather than being the perfect housewife.
Marriage is a beautiful thing, but what’s the rush? Do we have to marry young or at all? I spoke to several Latinas and they dished on their views on marriage and whether they’re in a rush to walk down the aisle.
It’s just a piece of paper.
Nowadays couples are working toward partnership. They move in together and split the bills equally. Some feel moving in together is basically the same thing as being married. You share a life together, you build a future; none of this changes with a marriage certificate. What does change is your legal status. As one Latina put it, marriage is “just a paper, it doesn’t change how we feel.” Another woman, however, wants to get married now because of her children. She stated that being legally married didn’t matter at first, “but after four kids I’m like, ‘Okay let’s get this shit sealed and done,’ for the kids sake.”
Many women don’t rush to say “I do” because they don’t want to lose their independence. For most of us we lived under our parents roof then went off to college and had roommates. Once in the real world we were finally on our own. And nothing feels better than coming home and having “me” time. In the past, we’d be classified as spinsters; now we’re just independent woman who want to do our own thing – and that’s perfectly OK.
Married to my career.
Many Latinas want to be successful at work and are passionate about their careers. One woman I surveyed even stated that she’s married to her job. “I love what I do,” she continued. “I am in no hurry to get married and I feel that’s the mentality of a lot of young women.” When you’re mind is set on being successful, you have little time to worry about planning a wedding.
Ignore marital pressure.
Our parents just want to be grandparents. They want us to have children and fear it will be too late if we wait. A close friend of mine who is a successful business owner admitted that she feels this pressure from her parents. They mostly want her to have kids already. In the end, it’s your choice to make. Ignore the naysayers and do what’s best for you.
Just be happy.
It’s your life, live it how you choose. Marriage will come in due time – if that’s even what you want. In the end, life should be on your terms.