Growing up, my father always told me it’s hard for young couples to last a lifetime. Coming from a man who had been with the same woman since 16, I asked no questions and took his word for it. However, I do recall being in my teens and thinking I’d be married and ready to start a family by the age of 25. In my 17-year-old mind, it was the perfect age.
Now, at four months shy from 25 and in a long term, committed relationship, I am in no rush to be a wife nor a mother.
Mentally, I’ve always been a solid 10 years ahead of my time. It’s been a blessing and a curse all my life because I could never fully connect with people my age – not when it came to hobbies, life goals or even music. You’d think I’d be dating some 40-year old man by now, but instead I am madly in love with a guy my age. Is he as mature as I am? Probably not. And let’s face it: men mature at a much slower pace than women do. I’ve accepted the fact that I cannot speed up his process just because I’m a 35-year-old woman stuck in a 25-year-old body. Is it a challenge living with someone you feel is less mature than you are in some aspects? Sure it is. Do I feel like I want to rip my hair out sometimes? Of course I do.
As the mature and outspoken, fierce and bossy Leo woman I am, sometimes I get a little carried away. We don’t have a joint bank account, but I try to show him how to better manage his money. I’m not his mother, but I try to steer him away from anything that may harm him in any way. I love him and I can’t help it. Do we bump heads because of this? I’ve got to admit that, indeed, we have. Even still, I feel everything that’s vital for a healthy relationship is there. However, we are both still finding ourselves. Yes, I’m much more mature than the average 25 year old, but do I really have it all together? Not at all. I still question my career choice. I still don’t know if I want to spend my entire life in California. Heck, I still don’t know what tomorrow will bring.
I don’t have it all figured out. I’m finding myself and the man I love is finding himself as well. He is as committed as I am though, and I feel it. Therefore, I won’t try to speed up his process. I’m just excited to be a part of his evolution because living inside him is the man of my dreams. Daddy was right though, it’s just not easy for young couples to make it.
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I Choose the Wrong Men and/or Not Ready: Cameron Diaz
Some women choose wrong again and again. When I think of celebrities who do so I think of Cameron Diaz. She was in a serious relationship with Justin Timberlake, a kid at that time, really. She then moved on to Alex Rodriguez who is an infamous cheater. So, yes, Cammie tends to choose men who aren’t ready to settle, or never will. Because she isn’t ready either. Photo Credit: Flickr.com/shankbone