We already know that personal relationships with coworkers is frowned upon. That whole not mixing business with pleasure thing is an unwritten rule that we are all supposed to follow. But just because you aren’t suppose to have physical relations doesn’t mean you can’t have a more than strictly platonic relationship with someone at the office. Enter the “work husband” (or work spouse), or as Connie Harris, a single mother, defines it: “A man who has a wife at home but is comfortable sharing intimate details about his life with a female coworker.”
Sharing intimate details that you should be sharing with your wife? Or vice versa?
No matter how platonic having a work husband can strain any committed relationship . There is a reason why your husband (or S.O.) and work spouse probably do not know too much about each other. Chances are there is something your work spouse gives you that your husband doesn’t – my, my.
When asked, Delphine Shaw states that she received a certain sense of “compassion and support” from her work husband that she never received from her ex-husband. “Obviously it’s just a really great friendship that I still get to cherish to this day. It would never be more – I never saw him in that way.”
As for whether it does any significant damage to a marriage, Heather, a 43-year-old out from Weatherford, Texas, believes that it only hurts your relationship “if you let it come between your home life negatively and start comparing the two men and your real husband got the short end of the stick.” Connie also echoed that sentiment.
“Don’t let it grow into something dangerous…I attract that mess, by the way…I cut ’em off quick!”
Regardless, the Work Husband is truly a valued friendship. Just make sure that you and your work husband don’t have some kind of hidden attraction. Keep it light and simple, ladies. Use caution while at the office. It’s all fun and games until a heart is broken, and no one wants that kind of drama.