Female friends can light up our lives. We support each other and are there to listen, laugh and rejoice when life is amazing. We also want what’s best for our BFFs, especially in the love department.
This can get complicated; the heart wants what it wants. So, how do you tell your friend that her boo is bad news? Here is how to tell your friend that she is dating a complete loser.
Ease her into it.
A direct a approach doesn’t always work. Some women love to date bad boys. Telling her he’s a loser may push her into his arms! What you should do is ease her into the bad news.
Point out the good qualities of other men.
Not to hook her up, but to show her the difference between great men and her not-so-great boyfriend. That way she will wonder why her man isn’t up to par. For example, if your guy buys you cough medicine when you’re sick, and her guy left her dying in bed while he watched TV, share your story with your BFF. She will note how thoughtful your man was, and how thoughtless her man is. She is having her own ‘aha’ moments.
Ask her about her future plans with her loser of a man.
Women often make excuses for the men in their lives. If you friend doesn’t see a bright future ahead, she may already know that he’s not the one. She may just need that extra push to realize she can do better.
Go on a double date with her and her man.
Your man has to be stellar so she can compare the two. She will note that relationships can be great, and maybe want one of her own. She may not even realize she’s dating a complete loser until she is exposed to a winner. Just don’t overtly compare your man to hers. Be subtle.
Ask her how her relationship is going.
Sometimes all a woman needs is to vent. She may not think you want to hear it if she complains a lot. Or she may believe that trash talking her man will you give ammunition. She may not be ready to hear your issues with him. One great question to ask her in the midst of her rant: why do you love him? If she can’t come up with great reasons, this may just open her eyes to his loser status.
If she asks you questions about her relationship, be honest.
She’s asking you because she’s doubting her relationship. She needs reassurance, or an honest answer that he is not the one. So tell her what you really think. Your friend knows that you mean well. You want what’s best for her. Again, if she’s asking for your opinion she really wants the truth. Just ease her into it as she is blinded by the love of a loser.