One of my least favorite sayings is “love is worth fighting for.” Just think about it. You are fighting with the person you love to prove that you love them. Confused yet? Yeah, me too!
Whoever said this must have been off their rocker. There is nothing romantic about fighting. It is actually very toxic. Fighting not only increases stress levels, but it can also lead to high blood pressure, wrinkles, and can lead to physical abuse. It happened it me. The relationship started out like a Disney movie and turned into Nightmare On Elm Street.
So, if you find yourself constantly fighting with your partner, reevaluate your situation. Is this what you want? Is your boo worth all this fighting? Are you still happy? Do you count down the minutes until you get to escape from them?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, it is time for my 5 Steps to Recovery, whether that means you stay with your boo or keep it moving without him!
Sit down and make a list of why you are arguing. Do not bring up that time four months ago where he ignored your text at 2AM. You may want to mention the time he blatantly flirted with your best friend.
Share the reasons why you feel you’ve been arguing so much. This allows each of you to communicate and get to the bottom of it together.
Sometimes you just have to compromise, even if that means cutting down on shopping sprees with his credit card or him spending less time at the club. Instead, learn the art of couponing. Get your burlesque on for him. It will keep him at home instead of spending money at the club, sweet cheeks!
If compromising is not working, is this relationship worth saving? Get old school and way out the pros and cons. Some issues are manageable. If you have to swallow your pride so be it. If you find yourself just saying, “OH HELL NO!” to your boo’s constant shenanigans, you know what’s coming.
If you’re at this point, the time has come to make a decision. It might hurt to leave but your heart is stronger than you think. Besides, you have to love yourself first. If you are not happy with you, how do you expect to be happy with someone else? Exactly. Now, go reevaluate your love and be honest with yourself about the love you have for you.
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