Since I can remember, I’ve been convinced that a first date goes something like this: guy picks you up, takes you to dinner and maybe a movie, and it all ends with a goodnight kiss. Pretty cliche, huh? Yet I expected this during every single date.
It wasn’t until recently that men switched it up. The dates weren’t any less amazing. In fact, the change of routine made them that much more special.
So, let’s stop getting carried away by how it should be. I am here to debunk a few first date myths. That way you don’t kick a guy to the curb because he didn’t follow protocol.
Myth 1: He’s supposed to pick you up at home. I always feel safer meeting a date and taking my own mode of transportation. I just like to get to know a man better before giving him my home address. Also, if he lives relatively far, I wouldn’t want him to drive hours just to pick me up.
Myth 2: He has to have an itinerary set for the night. Spontaneity can be fun! If he has a general idea of what you are doing on your date, and you’re not just driving around aimlessly, don’t get upset that he doesn’t have definitive plans. He wants to do something that’ll make you happy. He wants to try something new. That means he’s trying to impress you.
Myth 3: You have to kiss on the first date. But you really don’t! Do this at your own pace. If it’s not there, it’s not there. Who knows? You may not feel the urge until the second or third date. You will know when the moment is right, so don’t rush it.
Myth 4: Sex on the first date is a death sentence. I have seen relationships flourish even when sex occurred on the first date. So you don’t have to stick to the “no sex on the first date” rule if you don’t want to. Similarly to kissing on the first date, it’s your choice. It’s about your pace and comfort level. If you feel the moment is right, go for it. Don’t let this taboo ruin the nights flow.
First dates don’t have to be cookie-cutter scenarios; they differ from person to person. Just go with the flow and have a good time. Although first dates can be nerve-racking, it will go that much smoother if you are open, even if the night doesn’t turn out the way it’s “supposed” to.
Erynn Castellanos is an aspiring radio broadcaster with an opinion on all things love. Currently going through the trials of most twenty somethings, she balances life and relationships and knows what she wants. Her articles on LoveSujeiry.com tie in her personal experiences while exploring the early stages of dating and the single life.
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