I’ve gone on many dates. Blind dates, first dates, ugly dates: you name it and I’ve probably experienced it. This is especially true when online dating. The point of the process is to meet as many gentlemen (we hope) as possible until we click with just the one.
It takes a lot of dating to meet him.
The same goes for men. Like women, men want to settle down, make babies, and love and be loved. Don’t believe the hype: not all men are bad boys! The ones who do want to commit have as much trouble meeting that special woman. They also go on many dates. Blind dates, first dates, overweight dates – and have to pay for it all. All to find just the one.
Still, there are good guys who just don’t know how to woo a woman. They don’t say the right things and turn off their interest instantly without even realizing it. Well, I am here to help. Stand at attention fellas! Here is what not to say to a girl on a date. And yes, I’ve heard these awful lines before.
1. So I banged this girl…
Don’t ever start a conversation like this. You should never speak of the women you’ve sexed while on a date, or otherwise! It doesn’t make you look cool or smooth. It makes you look desperate to prove you’re smooth and cool.
2. I don’t eat cake, cake, cake, cake, cake.
Tell a woman that you don’t participate in oral sex and prepare to eat alone for the rest of the night. And maybe your life.
3. But I like to receive head.
Oh, so you’re that dude?! There she goes. And there you are alone at the bar.
4. I am terrified of AIDS.
Um, who isn’t? Do you think someone says, “I really wants to contract HIV and AIDS one day?” Your fear of AIDS is ignorant, especially if you tell a girl that you don’t give head (but receive) cause, you know, there’s a lower risk of getting AIDS (you actually contract HIV, not AIDS!!!) when she does the licking.
5. I just want to chill.
Most women don’t want to feel like they’re wasting their time. Or that a man just wants to sleep with them. Maybe she’ll want to sleep with you at some point (even that night) but it’s her choice. So, keep the nonchalant relationship talk to a minimum.
6. My life sucks.
And it’s going to suck harder if you are a negative person. It’s a date! You shouldn’t be whining about work or complaining about your mom or crying about your upbringing. Be grateful for what you have. If you must talk about it, bring it up when you’ve bonded and with maturity and awareness.
See, that isn’t so bad, guys! If you are confident (it truly is key) and comfortable in your own skin, you may just click with that one after all.