Being in a relationship can be beautiful and create lots of happiness and harmony. However, nobody is perfect and sometimes you may clash with your partner and get into an argument. When people argue they often say things they don’t mean or react aggressively. It doesn’t have to be that way.
If you use breathing techniques, you can avoid the go-to negativity and instead breathe it out. Getting oxygen to your brain allows you to think a lot clearer. When you are upset or in a heated argument your thinking is blurry, and you may say things you don’t mean. Breathing allows you to be aware of the consequences of your actions and reactions.
Here are some techniques to use the next time your partner pushes your buttons. You can also do these techniques with your significant other for an even more positive outcome.
Measure your breath.
Take deep long breaths. Breathing in slowly and deeply will able your lungs to fill and deflate. Breathe in for 3 seconds, hold for 3 seconds, release for 3 seconds. Try to count each breath as you take it in and release it. This will immediately distract you from negativity and put you in a calm state of clear thinking.
Think about each breath.
If you are thinking about your breathing, you are thinking in the now. Many times in relationships we bring up the past or future with questions like, “why did you do that?” or “when will you go do this?” Approaching your partner while thinking in present tense is a great way to clear the air, and to let go of past negativities and assumptions. With this shift you will have a positive discussion instead of a heated argument.
Place one hand on your chest and the other on your partners and vice versa. Feeling their chest rise and fall will help you match breathing patterns and get on the same rhythm. It’s always easier to avoid an argument when you and your partner are on the same page, so get in sync with your man.
Screaming, cursing, and yelling isn’t cute. Don’t waste your time and energy arguing. Instead, spend it loving your partner.