Recently, my boyfriend’s behavior has changed. He’s locking his phone and laptop. We aren’t the type of couple that snoops on each other but I feel like I should now. He used to call and text often when at work but now I have to initiate 90% of the conversation. Also, he is always coming over late for dinner (we live together) because he says he’s with a male coworker named Luis.
But here’s the kicker. Luis invited my boyfriend over to his family’s house for Thanksgiving yesterday and my boyfriend accepted. We had our own plans and now I am spending it alone because my family lives out of state. His excuse? He said he’s working that day anyway so he will be late for our Thanksgiving dinner. But in the past we have just eaten later.
What do you think is going on? Why is my boyfriend ditching me for a coworker all the time and now on Thanksgiving?
Ditching Me for a Friend
Dear Ditching Me for a Friend,
First off, your boyfriend is so wrong! How dare he leave you to eat turkey by yourself? Thanksgiving is a holiday for family and loved ones and he is treating you like neither of the two.
What do I think is going on? I have two theories. “Luis” could be code for “Luisa.” It may be that this coworker and guy pal is actually a woman that he is seeing. I mean, all of a sudden he’s locking his phone and laptop? Something is fishy with Luis. Another guess: your boyfriend is actually into Luis as Luis. He’s gay. He is living a double life.
Regardless of what’s going on, one thing is certain – you need to dump this guy. Throw his crap in trash bags and leave it on your doorstep Thanksgiving day. When he comes home from a night with Luisa or Luis, he will have no choice but to go, and you will be thankful that you’re not with this ungrateful and inconsiderate loser.