I wrote “hello” to a cute guy online and he sends a message saying, “Lets text.” Would you send him your number when all you’ve said is hello? He seems eager to get offline and into “real life.” But is it too soon? What is the protocol when dating online?
From “Hello” Online to Texting
Dear From “Hello” Online to Texting
This is a great question! Personally, I would not send him my number. But I used to have a stalker and don’t feel comfortable giving out my number just like that. I would at least email once or twice to get a feel for the guy. Just not for too long! It’s important to get offline sooner rather than later to feel out the connection.
What you can do to protect yourself and your phone number is to get a Google voice number. There is an app for Androids and iPhones. You give him that number instead of your own. That way if he’s creepy, or you’re just not interested, you can block his number on Google voice free of charge. One thing about Google voice: when someone calls, they get the Google voice line. So he will know that you gave him a Google voice number.
One last note: I’d be weary of texting. That’s what he indicated. Not a call but a text. I think it’s really important when you meet someone online to actually speak on the phone. A person’s voice, use of language, accent and even tone can make or break a connection. You can text a few times and then ask to meet him. Just don’t let it drag on too long. You don’t want a man to contact you and it not lead to a date. That will be a waste of your time.
Good luck and happy online dating!
Love strongly and wisely,