I am 30 years old and recently divorced after being married for 10 years. Dating has been challenging especially regarding sex. Sex has changed so much! Specifically, it seems like anal sex is much more common and even expected, even in more casual relationships. I’m not a prude, but it used to be that this was a pretty infrequent thing. Have expectations changed regarding anal sex? How do I tackle this when dating?
Not Giving Up My Behind
Dear Not Giving Up My Behind,
Sex has definitely changed over the last decade. Experimentation is no longer taboo and that includes having anal sex. There are articles that give tips on how to ease him in and even sex toys for anal sex. It’s a booty buffet!
But do you have to feast on it as well? No! You should do what makes you feel comfortable. If anal sex is too intimate (or painful) for your, tell those that are trying to stick it in that your vagina is best for now. Do not feel pressured to do anything that you don’t want to do just because anal sex is “cool.” This isn’t high school; we aren’t teenagers. Peer pressure be gone! Just do what feels right for you, your body, spirit and your gut. The right guy will respect your decision to not give up your behind, or wait until you are ready.