I have been on and off with this guy for 3 years now and it doesn’t seem like he wants to commit. But, the moment I decide to keep my distance, he comes back. He keeps saying that he likes me and that he cares about me. Then he talks shit and treats me like I’m nothing. I really do not know what this guy wants from me because he wont let me go.
I still have feelings for him but I just cant hold onto his indecisiveness anymore. He is draining me emotionally any psychologically. He doesn’t even take me out on dates and we argue a lot whenever we are together. I don’t know what to do anymore. Please share some relationship advice.
Commitment Phobe or Just Not Into Me?
Dear Commitment Phobe or Just Not Into Me?
I hate to break it to you but this guy just isn’t it to you. He’s led you on for 3 years – and you’ve let him. He’s not committing and you’ve stayed put. This isn’t even a relationship. So this is on you as much as it is on him.
I was just talking to a girlfriend about this: how women see the potential in men and focus on their words rather than his actions. He says he likes you and cares, but treats you like crap. That shouldn’t be enough to make you stay. And, yes, he may reel you back in but it’s your choice to say, “Thanks, but no thanks! I’m done for real this time.”
If you are done for real, and I hope that you are, cut him out of your life. No calls. No texts. No break up sex. No social media stalking. Start anew. You deserve so much better than this, but the choice is ultimately yours.
Love strongly and wisely,