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Ask Sujeiry: Is He Still With His Ex and the Mother of His Child?

female instinct Dear Sujeiry,

I just found out after being with my partner for 10 years that his daughter still thinks he is with her mom. Crazy right?

I never met her because mama didn’t want her around any other women that might be in her father’s life, so I respected that. Never pushed the issue. What a fool I am. How do I handle this? Do I just leave him? He denies everything. Says his daughter wants her parents together…she’s 15. I am devastated. Don’t know what to do.

Sincerely,

Betrayal

Dear Betrayal,

Children will say the darnedest thing to reunite their parents, especially teenage girls. But, there is an aspect of this situation that strikes me as shady: you have 10 years with a man and have never met his daughter.

This is a giant, blaring, flaming red flag. Not necessarily that your partner is still with the mother of his child, but that your partner isn’t giving you his place as his woman. I don’t care how mean his ex may be or that he may want to avoid drama or respect her feelings. If you have a real place in his life, his daughter should know who you are and also be a part of your life.

If he isn’t hiding anything, that is.

So, do I believe he is with the mother of his child? Perhaps. First, some questions for you:

  • How did you find out what his daughter thinks?
  • Does he spend weekends with you? (Weekend are for couples, is what I say!)
  • How often does he communicate with the mother of his child?
  • Does he spend time with his daughter and her mother often?
  • What are your womanly instincts telling you?

These answers will lead you. I only hope they lead you to a place without devastation and betrayal.

Love strongly and wisely,

Sujeiry

DISCLAIMER: The advice offered by Sujeiry Gonzalez are solely the opinion of Sujeiry Gonzalez and should not be considered as a form of therapy and/or diagnosis or treatment of any kind. If counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

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Sujeiry is a natural storyteller, dynamic radio show host and the proud CEO of LoveSujeiry.com. She's been at this digital media and content creation game for 15 plus years and pours her heart and soul onto LoveSujeiry.com - the only site for Latinas on all things love. After realizing there was a void in the love/relationship Latina media market, she took matters into her own hands and became the go-to sex and relationship expert on Latinx platforms. The former sex and relationship expert on Latina.com works diligently and passionately to encourage women of color to be their authentic selves as they navigate all things love.

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