I just found out after being with my partner for 10 years that his daughter still thinks he is with her mom. Crazy right?
I never met her because mama didn’t want her around any other women that might be in her father’s life, so I respected that. Never pushed the issue. What a fool I am. How do I handle this? Do I just leave him? He denies everything. Says his daughter wants her parents together…she’s 15. I am devastated. Don’t know what to do.
Children will say the darnedest thing to reunite their parents, especially teenage girls. But, there is an aspect of this situation that strikes me as shady: you have 10 years with a man and have never met his daughter.
This is a giant, blaring, flaming red flag. Not necessarily that your partner is still with the mother of his child, but that your partner isn’t giving you his place as his woman. I don’t care how mean his ex may be or that he may want to avoid drama or respect her feelings. If you have a real place in his life, his daughter should know who you are and also be a part of your life.
If he isn’t hiding anything, that is.
So, do I believe he is with the mother of his child? Perhaps. First, some questions for you:
- How did you find out what his daughter thinks?
- Does he spend weekends with you? (Weekend are for couples, is what I say!)
- How often does he communicate with the mother of his child?
- Does he spend time with his daughter and her mother often?
- What are your womanly instincts telling you?
These answers will lead you. I only hope they lead you to a place without devastation and betrayal.
Love strongly and wisely,
DISCLAIMER: The advice offered by Sujeiry Gonzalez are solely the opinion of Sujeiry Gonzalez and should not be considered as a form of therapy and/or diagnosis or treatment of any kind. If counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.[contact-form-7 404 "Not Found"]