I was in a relationship for a year and we were over the heels in love, but then he broke up with me because he said he needed to get his life straight. Soon he asked for a second chance and told me he loved me and like an idiot I said yes. A week later I get a message saying it was a mistake and that the love he had for me wasn’t the same. We had a big blow out and talked in about 9 months. Today he added me back onto Myspace. There’s rumors that he still is in love with me but I don’t know what to believe. I just really need some advice before I get my heart broken again!
He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not?
23, Bakerfield, CA
Dear He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not?
I’m going to be brutally honest. The great relationship you once had is now OVER. Mujer, he has made up his mind.
He told you with his words. “Getting my life straight” is code for “I want to be single.” He also told you with his actions. Hesitation is a sign of doubt and he’s wavered many times regarding his feelings for you. Now, you don’t want to be with a man who comes and goes and tells you he loves you just to take a back, do you?
As for the MySpace add and rumors that are winding up your heart, STOP! He has not expressed interest in rekindling your relationship. He has, however, disappointed you and shown inconsistencies in his feelings and behaviors time and again. So please stop analyzing! Don’t think his add or status updates are a secret message to you. Focus on you and what you want and deserve. Heal. Regain your confidence and release your hostility. Learn from this relationship and, most importantly, live in the present. You don’t know what’s coming next, but you said it yourself: you don’t want to repeat this cycle of confusion and heartbreak. So just let go.
Love strongly and wisely,
DISCLAIMER: The advice offered by Sujeiry Gonzalez are solely the opinion of Sujeiry Gonzalez and should not be considered as a form of therapy, advice, direction and/or diagnosis or treatment of any kind. If counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.[contact-form-7 404 "Not Found"]